This conversation is why I will never understand people with moral compasses. You try to follow this logic:
Friend: in your post about the intern . . . "seeing the look on intern's face when the realization hit that the secret had been unnecessarily disclosed"? Why did the intern disclose that she was dating a coworker? Because she thought you would guard the secret? And you were her friend?
M.E.: Ha, no, she thought that I knew already. I flushed her out, she thought she got caught.
Friend: Oh I see. Will you tell her gay lover? I think you should.
M.E.: You think I should?! Why?
Friend: You should tell her because she is with a crazy girl who sleeps around all the time.
M.E.: Interesting. Is that the moral thing to do? Or should I keep people's secrets?
Friend: I think you should tell. If I ever had such evidence of an affair I would seek out the
other party. I might do so anonymously, but I would at least alert them to it, and try to provide as much evidence as possible. I mean, at least once she has the info she can decide how she will take it, maybe they have an open relationship. And if ever someone tells you something like that again, tell them, either you can tell your lover or I will. I would expect the same. Can you imagine me standing by knowing someone was cheating on you?
M.E.: Well, no, because you have more loyalty to me than the other person.
Friend: I would tell on you. No, i would tell you "You can tell ___, or I will, but it isn't fair for them not to know."
M.E.: You would rat me out?
Friend: Do you feel betrayed by that? Are you going to tell the girlfriend?
M.E.: No, because I don't really know for sure. And they weren't dating at the time, I don't think... so it seems like it makes less sense to tell.
Friend: I see, fooling yourself.
M.E.: Fooling myself?
Friend: Why would she confess if she did no wrong?
M.E.: Oh, you're saying I should force her to confess?
Friend: No. I suppose if she wasn't clearly dating at that time, it might be hazy. But I bet the girlfriend doesn't know.
M.E.: Yeah, I bet the girlfriend doesn't know either. That's why I have power over her. Over them both, really.
Friend: in your post about the intern . . . "seeing the look on intern's face when the realization hit that the secret had been unnecessarily disclosed"? Why did the intern disclose that she was dating a coworker? Because she thought you would guard the secret? And you were her friend?
M.E.: Ha, no, she thought that I knew already. I flushed her out, she thought she got caught.
Friend: Oh I see. Will you tell her gay lover? I think you should.
M.E.: You think I should?! Why?
Friend: You should tell her because she is with a crazy girl who sleeps around all the time.
M.E.: Interesting. Is that the moral thing to do? Or should I keep people's secrets?
Friend: I think you should tell. If I ever had such evidence of an affair I would seek out the
other party. I might do so anonymously, but I would at least alert them to it, and try to provide as much evidence as possible. I mean, at least once she has the info she can decide how she will take it, maybe they have an open relationship. And if ever someone tells you something like that again, tell them, either you can tell your lover or I will. I would expect the same. Can you imagine me standing by knowing someone was cheating on you?
M.E.: Well, no, because you have more loyalty to me than the other person.
Friend: I would tell on you. No, i would tell you "You can tell ___, or I will, but it isn't fair for them not to know."
M.E.: You would rat me out?
Friend: Do you feel betrayed by that? Are you going to tell the girlfriend?
M.E.: No, because I don't really know for sure. And they weren't dating at the time, I don't think... so it seems like it makes less sense to tell.
Friend: I see, fooling yourself.
M.E.: Fooling myself?
Friend: Why would she confess if she did no wrong?
M.E.: Oh, you're saying I should force her to confess?
Friend: No. I suppose if she wasn't clearly dating at that time, it might be hazy. But I bet the girlfriend doesn't know.
M.E.: Yeah, I bet the girlfriend doesn't know either. That's why I have power over her. Over them both, really.
Well, you could always hold it over her head in case you needed something from her. Personally, I'm not into that kind of utilitarianism. That's what most people fail to understand about me, actually. LOL.
ReplyDeleteAnother issue is the unconscious drives of the cuckold. The cuckold purposely inserts him or herself into the situation of being a cuckold, because he or she has the perverse need to be or feel betrayed. Anyway, you never know what dynamics you might be interrupting in a situation like that.
-Vigilius
I am posting a comment just to see if I can. I am demented and don't understand much any more. So this might be sociopathic, but more likely is just senile and stupid.
ReplyDeletedefinitely use it 2 your advantage just don’t over use it cause people get tired of it n eventually don’t care cause you can use it for your needs haha
ReplyDeleteI find it interesting that opinions change when small pieces of information are added
ReplyDeletefor example:
"A man killed a man" - most people would consider it wrong to even think about killing another human being
"A man killed a man who raped a three year old" - Most would be outraged at the thought and some would feel it should have been left to the police to handle
"A man killed the man who raped his three year old" - A lot more people would sympathize and some would even scream that the rapist should have been tortured