Sex drive

A friend asked me:

I've been watching a little dexter, the first 3 episodes so far. I want to know how you explain his aversion to sex because arent most sociopaths super promiscuous? They dont understand the morality of sex but it still feels good so whats dexter's deal. I can understand him not getting the emotional side of it but theres more to it than that. Do you have any insights?

I'm super interested in this kind of stuff, probably because you are too and i found it a little weird how they portray him. He does a lot of stereotypical socio things like killing animals but they decided not to have him be promiscuous which prolly could have generated more buzz. Yeah i do like the inner monologues haha. You're probably right about there being a socio writer cause a lot of the things he says sound just like you. :)

I said: Well, the new version of Sherlock Holmes is supposed to be a sociopath and also asexual. From what I know of sociopaths, there sometimes seems to be more of an interest in the power and seduction aspects of sex, and less the actual act itself, perhaps because basically all it is to them is physical gratification, no soul melds or expressions of anything but dominance, power, and vulnerability. But I also think that sociopaths have physical needs just as much as anyone, and their lack of ability to conform to social norms may make their sexual activities seem comparatively more prominent and important in the sociopath's life, just because they're attitude about sex is more direct and less apologetic or euphemistic. Despite appearances, though, I don't think that there is necessarily anything unique about the sociopath's approach to sex vis a vis other drives, but rather that the nature of the sociopath's impulsiveness as it relates to sexual urges is the same as the sociopath's impulsiveness as it relates to everything else. In other words, to the extent that third parties perceive sex to stand out in a sociopath's personality, it may just be due to the squeamishness and buzz that most people associate with sex and sexuality, rather than there being a categorical difference between the sociopath's approach to sex and any other of his bodily needs.