This was a pretty entertaining explanation of normal people's natural tendency to not change their mind (hardly ever), even (and particularly) in the face of incontrovertible evidence.
Your brain loves consistency. It builds a worldview like we build a house. It has a foundation and a frame and windows and doors and it knows exactly how everything fits together.
If a new piece is introduced and it doesn't fit, the whole house falls apart. Your brain protects you by rejecting that piece. It then builds a fence and a moat and refuses to let in any visitors.
This is why we have the backfire effect. It's a biological way of protecting a worldview.
This is a much cleaner way of describing my own message here.
I vividly remember the experience of my "internal walls" being destroyed in encountering **-*. He was so different, so far removed from my conception of what a human could be like.
That's what hurts, guys.
It's really not so much any unfairness. It's the complete shock of having to account for a different mode of humanity. And most people can't do it. That's where you get the sociopath-hate and so on. It's the fence and moat.
The time I spent here was in rebuilding my worldview to make sense of my experience. I didn't think **-* had intended the whole thing as a dastardly plot; that didn't actually fit with my experience. And it clearly just wasn't over between us. That intuition has proved correct and I'm glad I followed it and went through the process of trying to better understand. I don't need to write so much anymore because the new house has stabilised. It makes better sense of all types of people and I have a process for incorporating new information (although unlike the article, I don't imagine my amygdala to be my little toe 8|.
As for **-*, he can be cold, he can be stubborn. I can be hot-headed and stubborn. His coldness can trigger my hot-headedness and my hot-headness triggers his stubbornness, which triggers my stubbornness. Yet we've learnt how to navigate this. I've learnt to say no to things I don't want even when everything seems to be at stake for me, and that's definitely a lesson I needed to learn. I'm very proud of that.
I'm grateful this place supported my rebuilding process.
And if I could offer any lessons to you guys in return, it's simply that your basic motivations aren't so different to ours and we don't act so differently, except that we like to collaborate because we're biologically rewarded for it. We expect collaboration and we're wired to trust. When we find you guys are different in this respect, it truly does tear down our belief system. But that's not an insurmountable problem... and if we teach the next generation to have more realistic beliefs about the diversity in our own species, there'll be less of this type of shock and just generally better social practices. I, for example, have learned from you guys to offer trust far more circumspectly. "Goodness" isn't a given with human behaviour, complex self-interest is. And that's ok, we can handle that. It's definitely better to be clear about it so we can learn to effectively negotiate.
If someone can prove me wrong with actual facts I will change my mind. Rarely though do I ever attempt an argument unless I know I will win. I do love a good fencing though
You can't fence though pillock, you can sit on one, but you're well practised at straddling no doubt. Screech.
You do make an excellent point though BellEnd, on a thread about people not changing their mind often (and particularly) when faced with incontrovertible evidence, what does the genius thinker BellEnd add from her salmon scented fence position? "If someone can prove me wrong with facts then I will change my mind" Outstanding BellEnd. You're such a sociopath
Obviously she's horrendously worn out and deeply satisfied, she's grateful, prone to tearful outbursts of ecstatic happiness, and sore. I'll tell her you were asking, but I doubt she'll remember you. I still have your floppy knockers as my screensaver though, so I'll jog her memory by smashing her face into the laptop. Failing that, I'll gob two thick lumps of phlegm on the wall, wait for them to sag down a bit, point, and shout "fucking BellEnd?!" at her. What was that godawful teen "comedy" from back in the day? Oh yeah, SavedByTheBell. How is screech? (if screech threw itself out the appartment block window, I'm gonna feel real bad [honest like] for you) (hmm, or maybe not...every cloud like no?)
God damn diggity Vegas will you answer your phone! ;)
I would think after being absent from this forum for a few months you would have came up with different "insults". Oh well, a girl can only dream...~waves~ hi Vegas
What "insults"? Who's really ever gone? Just the boring mindless fucks like you make people not bother. And it's sad...but...here you are again. You can't do anything past the shit you just posted, the, "thought you'd have better insults" shit is about as good as you get unfortunately. But I'm not gonna go into what a prick you are, because the wet replies you feel obliged to do, are so irritating...but not in any intentional way, no, just because you're extremely limited. "It's my truth" did crack me up though. What happened to make you such a cold, calculating monster Bell? Surely popping out a spaz isn't enough to tip the scales? Was it born of rape maybe? Ahh...was its old man a raving retard? And blind? I'm starting to get some back picture now Bell yes. Nudes for attention? Sex for companionship? Tits for praise? Almost tragic Bell. You gonna meet ME? (Not, me Bell...I could put a sock over my hand and have a better conversation with it than with you. And probably a better blow job too) ME the author I mean...the one we indirectly have to blame for your presence. Please do, I think she could really learn from you Bell, like the test of us do. Please, BellEnd...give us some wisdom...
Hey Vegas? Don't you listen to the attention craving, mong raising, whoremongering inner truthist, she's insatiably inept and craves my attention, and, being something of a double entendre fan...I like to give it to her
Yes, you've said that on another post. Once again repeating yourself and talking to someone who obviously has grown annoyed of you and is ignoring you lol. Trying to analyze someone you have 0 knowledge about just speaks to me at your level of narcissism which is sadly directly related to your delusional mental state. Sad really. I like to fuck with you and made aware by your grammatical errors when I have achieved just that. See, when you first start typing you are so skilled and as time goes on you get sloppy. CLEAR indication you are annoyed ;) Some advice..Pay attention and clean it up. I expect more from you....
1st!! Whitey wins Again!!!
ReplyDeleteYour brain loves consistency. It builds a worldview like we build a house.
ReplyDeleteIt has a foundation and a frame and windows and doors and it knows exactly how everything fits together.
If a new piece is introduced and it doesn't fit, the whole house falls apart. Your brain protects you by rejecting that piece. It then builds a fence and a moat and refuses to let in any visitors.
This is why we have the backfire effect. It's a biological way of protecting a worldview.
This is a much cleaner way of describing my own message here.
I vividly remember the experience of my "internal walls" being destroyed in encountering **-*. He was so different, so far removed from my conception of what a human could be like.
That's what hurts, guys.
It's really not so much any unfairness. It's the complete shock of having to account for a different mode of humanity. And most people can't do it. That's where you get the sociopath-hate and so on. It's the fence and moat.
The time I spent here was in rebuilding my worldview to make sense of my experience. I didn't think **-* had intended the whole thing as a dastardly plot; that didn't actually fit with my experience. And it clearly just wasn't over between us. That intuition has proved correct and I'm glad I followed it and went through the process of trying to better understand. I don't need to write so much anymore because the new house has stabilised. It makes better sense of all types of people and I have a process for incorporating new information (although unlike the article, I don't imagine my amygdala to be my little toe 8|.
As for **-*, he can be cold, he can be stubborn. I can be hot-headed and stubborn. His coldness can trigger my hot-headedness and my hot-headness triggers his stubbornness, which triggers my stubbornness. Yet we've learnt how to navigate this. I've learnt to say no to things I don't want even when everything seems to be at stake for me, and that's definitely a lesson I needed to learn. I'm very proud of that.
I'm grateful this place supported my rebuilding process.
And if I could offer any lessons to you guys in return, it's simply that your basic motivations aren't so different to ours and we don't act so differently, except that we like to collaborate because we're biologically rewarded for it. We expect collaboration and we're wired to trust. When we find you guys are different in this respect, it truly does tear down our belief system. But that's not an insurmountable problem... and if we teach the next generation to have more realistic beliefs about the diversity in our own species, there'll be less of this type of shock and just generally better social practices. I, for example, have learned from you guys to offer trust far more circumspectly. "Goodness" isn't a given with human behaviour, complex self-interest is. And that's ok, we can handle that. It's definitely better to be clear about it so we can learn to effectively negotiate.
If someone can prove me wrong with actual facts I will change my mind. Rarely though do I ever attempt an argument unless I know I will win. I do love a good fencing though
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ReplyDeleteYou can't fence though pillock, you can sit on one, but you're well practised at straddling no doubt.
Screech.
You do make an excellent point though BellEnd, on a thread about people not changing their mind often (and particularly) when faced with incontrovertible evidence, what does the genius thinker BellEnd add from her salmon scented fence position?
"If someone can prove me wrong with facts then I will change my mind"
Outstanding BellEnd.
You're such a sociopath
Hey Vegas ;)
Maybe, maybe not. It's my truth. How's your sub?
ReplyDeleteObviously she's horrendously worn out and deeply satisfied, she's grateful, prone to tearful outbursts of ecstatic happiness, and sore.
ReplyDeleteI'll tell her you were asking, but I doubt she'll remember you.
I still have your floppy knockers as my screensaver though, so I'll jog her memory by smashing her face into the laptop.
Failing that, I'll gob two thick lumps of phlegm on the wall, wait for them to sag down a bit, point, and shout "fucking BellEnd?!" at her.
What was that godawful teen "comedy" from back in the day? Oh yeah, SavedByTheBell. How is screech? (if screech threw itself out the appartment block window, I'm gonna feel real bad [honest like] for you) (hmm, or maybe not...every cloud like no?)
God damn diggity Vegas will you answer your phone! ;)
I would think after being absent from this forum for a few months you would have came up with different "insults". Oh well, a girl can only dream...~waves~ hi Vegas
ReplyDeleteWhat "insults"?
ReplyDeleteWho's really ever gone? Just the boring mindless fucks like you make people not bother.
And it's sad...but...here you are again.
You can't do anything past the shit you just posted, the, "thought you'd have better insults" shit is about as good as you get unfortunately.
But I'm not gonna go into what a prick you are, because the wet replies you feel obliged to do, are so irritating...but not in any intentional way, no, just because you're extremely limited.
"It's my truth" did crack me up though. What happened to make you such a cold, calculating monster Bell? Surely popping out a spaz isn't enough to tip the scales? Was it born of rape maybe? Ahh...was its old man a raving retard? And blind? I'm starting to get some back picture now Bell yes.
Nudes for attention? Sex for companionship? Tits for praise? Almost tragic Bell.
You gonna meet ME? (Not, me Bell...I could put a sock over my hand and have a better conversation with it than with you. And probably a better blow job too) ME the author I mean...the one we indirectly have to blame for your presence. Please do, I think she could really learn from you Bell, like the test of us do.
Please, BellEnd...give us some wisdom...
Hey Vegas? Don't you listen to the attention craving, mong raising, whoremongering inner truthist, she's insatiably inept and craves my attention, and, being something of a double entendre fan...I like to give it to her
Yes, you've said that on another post. Once again repeating yourself and talking to someone who obviously has grown annoyed of you and is ignoring you lol. Trying to analyze someone you have 0 knowledge about just speaks to me at your level of narcissism which is sadly directly related to your delusional mental state. Sad really. I like to fuck with you and made aware by your grammatical errors when I have achieved just that. See, when you first start typing you are so skilled and as time goes on you get sloppy. CLEAR indication you are annoyed ;) Some advice..Pay attention and clean it up. I expect more from you....
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