I renamed "The Cycle" from last post to the "Feedback Loop". The steps are still the same. This is quiz I came up with so people can see in which steps of the Feedback Loop they may be skipping or not giving enough attention to:
Quiz
Take this short self-assessment to see where you might be skipping steps in the Feedback Loop. Mark your answers yes or no:
1. Do you feel like you always understand your own motivations?
2. Do you spend more than 3 hours per day on your phone?
3. Do you feel ok in work performance reviews?
4. Can you feel comfortable receiving compliments?
5. Do you feel comfortable asserting your personal boundaries?
6. Do you often choose to do things you want to do but scare you?
7. Do you have a growth mindset (vs. fixed mindset, feel free to Google if you’re unfamiliar with the terms)?
8. Are you often proud of the work that you’ve accomplished?
9. Do you feel comfortable telling people no?
10. Do you try things even if you think you might fail?
11. Are you fearless in the dressing room, looking down at the scale, or at the beach in your swimsuit?
12. Do you know more than 10 people where you can say that you made a real difference in their lives?
13. Is it easy for you to answer questions like these asking you about yourself?
14. Are you ok with making mistakes?
15. Are you ok with unflattering photos of you at a social function being shared on social media?
16. Can you list your 10 biggest life accomplishments?
17. Do you know what activity you do that helps you to feel most like yourself?
18. Are you always satisfied that you did your best, even though other people did much better than you?
19. Are you generally able to move on from a broken relationship?
20. Do you feel like you have mostly fulfilled your potential?
21. When other people tell you negative things about you without your consent, do you ask them to stop?
22. Is it easy for you to do difficult things without procrastinating?
23. Is it easy for you to forgive others for unintentional mistakes?
24. Do others often turn to you for advice or do only a few people seek your advice but they highly prize that advice?
25. Is it easy for you to identify and/or understand your emotions?
26. Is it easy for you make realistic New Year’s resolutions and keep them (and/or do you understand yourself well enough to know if you’re not interested in making New Year’s resolutions)?
27. Do you often think after a negative experience that at least you learned something about yourself or the world?
28. Are you a reliable person?
29. Do you know which of your relationships are most sustaining to your well-being?
30. Do you feel like you are mostly in control of your feelings (as opposed to them being in control of you)?
31. Do you find it easy to accept that you are not perfect?
32. Do you often feel engaged in life?
33. Do you find it easy to accept that people may never change in the ways that you would like them to (or may change in ways you don’t like)?
34. Do you release limiting beliefs about yourself easily?
35. Do you find it easy to cope with uncomfortable feelings?
36. Do you regularly engage in activities or areas for which you have a passion?
37. Do you value others thoughts or opinions above your own?
38. Are you ok with the fact that your to-do list will never be complete?
39. Do you use your feelings only as information about yourself without judging them as good/bad?
40. Do you commemorate your victories?
41. Do you regularly assert yourself (as opposed to staying silent to keep the peace)?
42. Do you always overtly express your expectations of others?
43. When you get angry or frustrated that someone has not met your expectations, do you often pause to reflect on whether you adequately communicated those expectations?
44. Do you find it easy to acknowledge your limitations?
45. Do you know well who in your life is worthy of your trust?
46. Do you do things primarily for your own satisfaction (as opposed to doing what others want you to do)?
47. Is it easy for you to concede and apologize when you’re wrong or have made a mistake?
48. Do you feel like you have shown a great deal of resilience in your life?
49. Do you find it easy to stand up for yourself?
50. Do you have little to no life regrets?
Scoring:
To give yourself an idea of where you might be struggling in terms of the Feedback Loop steps, count only your “no” responses. The questions are arranged in the Feedback Loop order:
Step 1: 1, 5, 9, 13, 17, 21, 25, 29, 33, 37, 41, 45, 49
Step 2: 2, 6, 10, 14, 18, 22, 26, 30, 34, 38, 42, 46, 50
Step 3: 3, 7, 11, 15, 19, 23, 27, 31, 35, 39, 43, 47
Step 4: 4, 8, 12, 16, 20, 24, 28, 32, 36, 40, 44, 48
What do your results mean? If you have a lot of no’s for Step 1, it means you often skip or pay too little attention to Step 1 in the feedback loop, etc.